I wish you enough

Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, “I love you, and I wish you enough.”

The daughter replied, “Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom.” They kissed and the daughter left.

The mother walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there, I could see she wanted & needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy, but she welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?”

“Yes, I have,” I replied. “Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?”.

“I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is – the next trip back will be for my funeral,” she said.

“When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough.’ May I ask what that means?”

She began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and she smiled even more.”When we said, ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough goo d things to sustain them.” Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory.

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.

I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

She then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them. TAKE TIME TO LIVE…..

(A friend e-mailed this story to me, I don't know whether it's a true story or not but I find it quite touching.. =) )

Tentang Perempuan

Dia yang diambil dari tulang rusukmu.

Jika Tuhan mempersatukan dua orang yang berlawanan sifatnya, maka itu akan saling melengkapi. Dialah penolongmu yang sepadan, bukan sparing partner yang sepadan. Ketika pertandingan dimulai, dia tidak akan berhadapan denganmu untuk melawan tetapi dia akan ada bersamamu untuk berjaga-jaga di belakang saat engkau berada di depan atau segera mengembalikan bola ketika bola itu terlewat olehmu; dialah yang akan melengkapi kekuranganmu.

Dia ada untuk melengkapi yang tidak ada dalam laki-laki: perasaan, emosi, kelemahlembutan, keluwesan, keindahan, kecantikan, rahim untuk melahirkan, mengurusi hal-hal sepele; hingga ketika laki-laki tidak mengerti hal-hal itu, dialah yang akan menyelesaikan bagiannya sehingga tanpa kau sadari, ketika kau menjalani sisa hidupmu, kau akan menjadi lebih kuat karena hadirnya di sisimu.

Jika ada makhluk yang sangat bertolak belakang, kontras dengan lelaki, itulah perempuan. Jika ada makhluk yang sanggup menaklukkan hati hanya dengan sebuah senyuman, itulah perempuan. Ia tidak butuh argumentasi hebat dari seorang laki-laki tetapi ia butuh jaminan rasa aman darinya, karena ia ada untuk dilindungi. Tidak hanya secara fisik, namun juga emosi.

Ia boleh jadi tidak tertarik kepada fakta-fakta yang akurat, bahasa yang teliti dan logis yang bisa disampaikan secara detail dari seorang laki-laki, tetapi yang ia butuhkan adalah perhatiannya, kata-kata yang lembut, ungkapan-ungkapan sayang yang sepele namun sangat berarti baginya; membuatnya aman di dekatmu.

Batu yang keras dapat terkikis habis oleh air yang luwes, sifat laki-laki yang keras ternetralisir oleh kelembutan perempuan. Rumput yang lembut tidak mudah tumbang oleh badai dibandingkan dengan pohon besar dan rindang, seperti juga di dalam kelembutannya, di situlah terletak kekuatan dan ketahanan yang membuatnya bisa bertahan dalam situasi apapun. Ia lembut bukan untuk diinjak, rumput yang lembut akan dinaungi oleh pohon yang kokoh dan rindang.

Jika lelaki berpikir tentang perasaan wanita, itu akan menyita sepersekian dari hidupnya. Tetapi jika perempuan berpikir tentang perasaan lelaki, itu akan menyita seluruh hidupnya.

Karena perempuan diciptakan dari tulang rusuk laki-laki, karena perempuan adalah bagian dari laki-laki.. apa yang menjadi bagian hidupnya, akan menjadi bagian bagi hidupmu. Karena kau dan dia adalah satu. Dia adalah dirimu yang tak ada sebelumnya. Ketika pertandingan dimulai, pastikan dia ada di bagian lapangan yang sama denganmu.

Re: something special

dear errr..what's your name again?,

there you go again, nice touch with those songs and personal stuffs.. we thought you finally got tired or hit by a bus or something.. good to know you're alive, dear..

we're not gonna lie here, your emails did bug us at first..but now we simply see them as hilarious and quite entertaining.. it's amusing, really, to see how hard you're trying to piss us off.. your little evil mind must be getting a bit tired by now, no? we sincerely hope you haven't run out of ideas yet..

we'd like to thank you for sending us those "free entertainment", and basically for your existence , you know, give us something to laugh about since there's nothing good on tv these days.. your existence has also been a great reminder for us to be more grateful for everything we've got.. to be honest, we never truly realized before how lucky we are for having a healthy healthy healthy mind and emotions, unlike some people.. ;)

well, we think that's all we need to say to you.. looking forward to your next move, dear..

warmest regards,

nisa+fatwa

ps. oh by the way, we happen to know a really good shrink, like..a really good one! let us know if you need the number..you know, if somehow you ever get too depressed or have an urge to kill yourself or something like that..we'd be more than happy to help! ;)

Are You Making Judgements.. or Being Judgemental??

Judgemental, prejudiced and biased individuals make far-reaching pronouncements based on limited information. We all know such people. Their false and extreme generalizations give them away. "Anyone who uses curse words is obviously stupid and uneducated!" "Rock-and-roll fans don’t know the first thing about music!" "People who don’t regularly attend religious services are heathens!"

Most people realize that being judgemental is an unattractive trait. If you look around, you’ll find that most judgemental people are disliked and avoided. The answer to Mom’s reproach, "Why don’t you call your mother more often?" if truthful would probably be, "Because you’re judgemental and tend to pick on me, so it’s unpleasant to talk to you." When people stop being judgemental, they often discover a level of personal happiness that had eluded them.

Yet none of us can help forming opinions of other people. So how does judgemental thinking differ from making judgements? Judgemental people state their views and observations in authoritative terms; they decree what is right and wrong, what should and should not be, what is good or bad. Making a simple judgement, however, does not carry these ominous overtones. "Billy has poor table manners" is a judgement. The judgemental person would add something, such as "Therefore, he’s a slob who was raised by cavemen!"

We make judgements constantly. "He’s good-looking." "She dresses well." "He seems to lack a good sense of humor." "She’s overweight."

In forming opinions or making judgements, there is no moral overtone, no further conclusions are drawn, no inferences are made about the person’s character. We just have the observation or the perception.

As soon as we add "therefore" to the observation, we are likely to be judgemental. "He talks very slowly," is an observation, "therefore, he must be stupid" is a judgemental conclusion.

If you look out for your own "therefores" you are less likely to sit in judgement over your fellow human beings, which will be all to the good for you and them.

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Adapted from The 60-Second Shrink: 101 Strategies for Staying Sane in a Crazy World, by Arnold A. Lazarus, Ph.D. and Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D. Available at online and local bookstores or directly from Impact Publishers, Inc., PO Box 6016, Atascadero, CA 93423-6016. Phone 1-800-246-7228.

what is your irrational fear???

You know they say every people in the world must’ve had at least one irrational fear or widely known as phobia.. Me myself, I’ve got two.. I’m insanely afraid of rhodents (rats, mice, even hamsters, etc) and crossing the street. Some find the second one a bit ridiculous.. But it’s true.. Everytime I stand on the side of the street, try to cross it by myself, my knees tremble and my hands get cold. Few times I forced myself to cross the street alone, and what happened was I ran across the street, with my eyes closed.. Then I realized I could’ve killed myself..



Just the other day, I searched the site www.phobialist.com and O MY GOD I’ve just known that there are sooooo many types of phobias in the world.. I can’t even imagine that some of them are really experienced by any people.. You can go and check the site yourself if you want to search through all those phobias.. But here I post some of them that might be useful for your knowledge.. and also I post some of the most ridiculous or odd ones (from my opinion..=p).. Well, just read below... ^^

Achluophobia- Fear of darkness
Acrophobia- Fear of heights
Ailurophobia- Fear of cats
Alektorophobia- Fear of chickens
Antlophobia- Fear of floods
Anuptaphobia- Fear of staying single
Arachnephobia or Arachnophobia- Fear of spiders
Arithmophobia- Fear of numbers
Aviophobia or Aviatophobia- Fear of flying.
Atychiphobia- Fear of failure
Batrachophobia- Fear of amphibians, such as frogs, newts, salamanders, etc.
Belonephobia- Fear of pins and needles. (Aichmophobia)
Claustrophobia- Fear of confined spaces.
Coulrophobia- Fear of clowns.
Dromophobia- Fear of crossing streets --- this is me...
Enochlophobia- Fear of crowds
Hemophobia or Hemaphobia or Hematophobia- Fear of blood
Insectophobia - Fear of insects.
Melanophobia- Fear of the color black
Necrophobia- Fear of death or dead things
Nosocomephobia- Fear of hospitals
Obesophobia- Fear of gaining weight (Pocrescophobia)
Ophidiophobia- Fear of snakes
Pediophobia- Fear of doll
Phasmophobia- Fear of ghosts
Scoleciphobia- Fear of worms
Thalassophobia- Fear of the sea
Trypanophobia- Fear of injections
Xyrophobia-Fear of razors
Zemmiphobia- Fear of the great mole rat ---and this is me again...

And here are the odd ones.. hehehe..

Ablutophobia- Fear of washing or bathing
Arachibutyrophobia- Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of the mouth (hahaha)
Barophobia- Fear of gravity
Bibliophobia- Fear of books
Cacophobia- Fear of ugliness
Caligynephobia- Fear of beautiful women
Cathisophobia- Fear of sitting
Chrometophobia or Chrematophobia- Fear of money
Cibophobia- Fear of food (Sitophobia, Sitiophobia)
Coprastasophobia- Fear of constipation (hahahahahahahaha......)

Decidophobia- Fear of making decisions (huh????)
Didaskaleinophobia- Fear of going to school
Eleutherophobia- Fear of freedom
Epistemophobia- Fear of knowledge
Euphobia- Fear of hearing good news
Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia- Fear of long words (yea, it’s scary how long the word is.. hehehe..)
Hypengyophobia or Hypegiaphobia- Fear of responsibility
Ideophobia- Fear of ideas
Logophobia- Fear of words
Mnemophobia- Fear of memories
Nomatophobia- Fear of names
Geliophobia- Fear of laughter
Ouranophobia or Uranophobia- Fear of heaven
Panophobia or Pantophobia- Fear of everything
Peladophobia- Fear of bald people
Philemaphobia or Philematophobia- Fear of kissing
Phobophobia- Fear of phobias
Phronemophobia- Fear of thinking
Somniphobia- Fear of sleep
Sophophobia- Fear of learning
Testophobia- Fear of taking tests


Well, tell me... which one are you???? Hehehehehe...

posted by. niSa.. --<---<@

SKIZOFRENIA

Hmm.. kmaren ini gw kebetulan abis baca novel yg tokoh utamanya ternyata menderita kelainan jiwa yg namanya skizofrenia ini. Agak2 mirip film A Beautiful Mind gitu deh.. tapi yg gw baca ini ceritanya lebih sedih n tragis banget.. Gw sampe hampir nangis pas sampe di akhir critanya.. Eits, hampir lohh.. =P Nah, gara2 itu gw jadi pengen ngomongin skizofrenia.. sayangnya gw blom sempet nyari2 sumber2 yg lengkap gitu sih.. yg gw tau ttg penyakit ini kurang lebih sama lah sama pengetahuan orang awam..

Kata skizofrenia sendiri b'asal dari bahasa Yunani yang b'rarti jiwa yang retak (skizos artinya retak, n frenas artinya jiwa). Jiwa manusia itu terdiri dari tiga unsur, yaitu perasaan, kemauan, dan pikiran. Pada orang yang normal, ketiga unsur ini senada. Artinya kalo prasaan lagi seneng, maka kmauan n pikirannya m'dukung. Sbaliknya, kalo lagi sedih, ketiga-tiganya menurun. Smentara pada orang yang punya jiwa yang retak (skizofrenia), ketiga unsur itu gak berjalan senada. Misalnya ada orang yg bilang "gw sedih banget, kucing gw kelindes bajaj," tapi dia ketawa. Itu artinya retak. Dia sedih tapi dia gembira juga. Jadi kalo ada keretakan di unsur jiwanya baru deh itu disebut skizofrenia, tapi jangan salah.. gak semua orang sakit jiwa mengalami keretakan jiwa.

Gejala skizofrenia secara klinis gampang dikenalin smacem halusinasi, delusi (keyakinan yang gak b'dasar), emosi yang labil, gangguan tingkah laku, n gangguan proses b'pikir. *loh kok kayak gw yaahhh.. =P*

Gak beda dgn kanker atau penyakit kompleks lainnya, misteri skizofrenia blom spenuhnya terpecahkan sampe sekarang. Masih banyak pertanyaan ttg penyakit ini yang blom bisa dijawab oleh para ahli.

kelainan perkembangan syaraf otak, salah satu faktor nongenetik penyebab skizofrenia

Menurut penelitian para ahli siy, skizofrenia cuma bisa timbul pada orang yang punya gen pembawa. Meskipun bgitu, gak semua yang memiliki gen pembawa bakal mengidap skizofrenia. Nah, kalo timbul gejala kayak skizofrenia pada orang yang gak punya gen pembawa, maka bisa dipastiin itu bukan skizofrenia.

Trus, bisa sembuh gak siy penderita skizofrenia ini? Walaupun kambuhnya penyakit ini bisa dicegah dengan berbagai macam terapi dan obat2an, ternyata penyakit ini blom bisa disembuhin secara total. Jadi yg bener2 harus diperatiin adalah jangan sampe penyakit ini kambuh, karena kalo kambuh brarti ada resistensi terhadap obat n terapinya shingga penderitanya butuh dosis obat yang makin lama makin tinggi, tentunya obat2an ini punya side effect yg gak bagus khan..

Mengidap penyakit sperti skizofrenia tentunya bikin masa depan penderitanya terlihat suram. Dengan makin buruknya masa depan penderita, bakal b'tambah pula beban keluarga n sumber daya buat ngerawat kesehatannya. Kondisi ini yg sering nyebabin merosotnya hubungan penderita dgn keluarga n lingkingan sosialnya, juga ningkatin risiko t'jadinya perilaku yang membahayakan. Semua ini yg bikin banyak penderita skizofrenia b'akhir jadi gelandangan di jalan-jalan. *naudzubillahi min dzalik*